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Lately, I've had a rather interesting thought while observing how people behave on social media: it seems that the human need to save face is gradually fading.
In the past, before voicing an opinion, making a mistake, or doing something out of the ordinary, we would think long and hard. What will others think? Will this affect my image? Am I embarrassing myself or my family? Reputation was once an invisible asset — but one of enormous value.
Yet today, on social media, people are willing to argue publicly, share deeply personal stories, express their emotions openly, and even do things they would probably never do in real life. What's striking is that many such behaviors are not "punished" — in fact, they are sometimes rewarded with attention, views, and engagement.
I think the reason goes beyond algorithms or shifts in society. Perhaps part of it comes from the fact that we are growing to understand ourselves better.
In psychology, there is a concept called Egocentric Bias — a cognitive tendency that causes each of us to unconsciously place ourselves at the center of the world. We tend to overestimate how much others pay attention to us. We assume people are focused on our mistakes, that they remember every awkward thing we've said, or that they spend a great deal of time judging us. In reality, most people are too busy thinking about themselves.
This creates a rather fascinating paradox. Social media gives each person the feeling of standing on a grand stage — yet at the same time, it reveals that millions of others are all trying to tell their own stories. Everyone wants to be heard. Everyone wants to be noticed. And everyone is the main character in the movie of their own life.
Perhaps that is why many people today feel less pressure to maintain a perfect image. They are beginning to realize that their missteps don't attract nearly as much attention as they once thought. The moments that kept them up at night in shame sometimes vanish entirely from other people's memory within just a few hours or days.
Of course, this doesn't mean that reputation or self-respect no longer matter. But perhaps we are slowly shifting — from living to meet everyone else's expectations, to living more authentically according to the values we truly believe in.
And perhaps the most interesting lesson lies here:
When everyone thinks they are the center of the world, in truth, no one is.
In the past, before voicing an opinion, making a mistake, or doing something out of the ordinary, we would think long and hard. What will others think? Will this affect my image? Am I embarrassing myself or my family? Reputation was once an invisible asset — but one of enormous value.
Yet today, on social media, people are willing to argue publicly, share deeply personal stories, express their emotions openly, and even do things they would probably never do in real life. What's striking is that many such behaviors are not "punished" — in fact, they are sometimes rewarded with attention, views, and engagement.
I think the reason goes beyond algorithms or shifts in society. Perhaps part of it comes from the fact that we are growing to understand ourselves better.
In psychology, there is a concept called Egocentric Bias — a cognitive tendency that causes each of us to unconsciously place ourselves at the center of the world. We tend to overestimate how much others pay attention to us. We assume people are focused on our mistakes, that they remember every awkward thing we've said, or that they spend a great deal of time judging us. In reality, most people are too busy thinking about themselves.
This creates a rather fascinating paradox. Social media gives each person the feeling of standing on a grand stage — yet at the same time, it reveals that millions of others are all trying to tell their own stories. Everyone wants to be heard. Everyone wants to be noticed. And everyone is the main character in the movie of their own life.
Perhaps that is why many people today feel less pressure to maintain a perfect image. They are beginning to realize that their missteps don't attract nearly as much attention as they once thought. The moments that kept them up at night in shame sometimes vanish entirely from other people's memory within just a few hours or days.
Of course, this doesn't mean that reputation or self-respect no longer matter. But perhaps we are slowly shifting — from living to meet everyone else's expectations, to living more authentically according to the values we truly believe in.
And perhaps the most interesting lesson lies here:
When everyone thinks they are the center of the world, in truth, no one is.
